tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8570778423507464439.post2444081074076398939..comments2023-05-30T06:22:33.734-07:00Comments on wtf parenting: Shorty Gets FatJuliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04244649713390780027noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8570778423507464439.post-6336603590148639102011-03-28T13:10:18.478-07:002011-03-28T13:10:18.478-07:00I totally relate: I was looking at a post today ab...I totally relate: I was looking at a post today about putting string lights in our bedroom and got all whipped up into YES THIS IS THE ANSWER. It'll make everything better. Then I realized what I want more than that is an unbroken husband who gets me and is on the same page with me. Yikes. <br /><br />For me the eating right = comes and goes. There's some weeks where it's effortless. Othertimes I literally have to drag myself kicking and screaming to the gym and talk myself out of chocolate ALL THE LIVELONG DAY. God. <br /><br />I read in a book recently about diet something about how we all know what we could do better. Simple things like no chocolate after dinner (dammit!). So start with those things. I'm finding myself very resistant of "diet plans" these days but prefer just to do what I know is best. <br /><br />HUGS -- I think the world of you.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12013504768642605916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8570778423507464439.post-27556623769455497102011-03-21T11:18:48.106-07:002011-03-21T11:18:48.106-07:00"I had been waiting for the time when we woul..."I had been waiting for the time when we would sit at the table with a nice wooden salad bowl and the same meal being eaten by all and we could actually talk to each other about our day or whatever. I don't mean perfect...it would have the normal family stuff going on."<br /><br />Julie. This is my fantasy. TOTALLY get it. I just think maybe when they're teenagers (or at least just Luke) we'll finally get there...not because Luke's any better...just because I'll have gotten to the point where I don't care if they're eating fried twinkies dipped in bacon grease covered in frosting. with Lucky charms on the side. We're ALL SITTING AT THE TABLE TOGETHER HAVING NORMAL CONVERSTAION. no tears, no throwing up, no battles, no starving, no nothing. Just chilling with the fam. eating twinkies while Aaron and I have lasagna. <br /><br />And of course. Doing stuff around the house instead of focusing on getting in shape and then hating it once warmer weather comes? uh, we're twins.katieohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08339475353059389950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8570778423507464439.post-81626719078477651162011-03-21T10:37:44.359-07:002011-03-21T10:37:44.359-07:00One of the hardest things about parenting Kent is ...One of the hardest things about parenting Kent is getting over MY feeling that people think I'm a bad mom. Honestly, if I could get over worrying about what other people think, it would be so much easier.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10443312525591908741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8570778423507464439.post-3004898973504686032011-03-21T10:36:26.510-07:002011-03-21T10:36:26.510-07:00oh yay!!! Thanks Gigs. We're really hoping h...oh yay!!! Thanks Gigs. We're really hoping he'll grow out of it, at least a bit. There have been many challenging behaviors that he has outgrown, or at least learned to deal with better, we're hoping that's one of them.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10443312525591908741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8570778423507464439.post-44368501206830798772011-03-21T10:14:56.000-07:002011-03-21T10:14:56.000-07:00emotionally, he just can't get past having to ...<i>emotionally, he just can't get past having to play by the rules and sometimes not winning. He. has. to. win. Period. </i> <br />Yes, Robin! We had that too. I can remember all the neighborhood kids playing "pickle" in the yard when they were younger, and my son going absolutely nuts when he got out. Of course nobody understood this type of reaction...figured he hadn't been taught to be a gracious loser. (Believe me, we tried!) Although I have to say it has gotten much, much better (as in he can control his reactions) as he's gotten older...so maybe that is in your future too...Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02625501000684450886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8570778423507464439.post-42789471788224572922011-03-21T08:55:26.180-07:002011-03-21T08:55:26.180-07:00Yay!! A post. Before I get to the Murphy thing.....Yay!! A post. Before I get to the Murphy thing.... I totally get the fat thing. I'm in the same boat. I just don't have the energy. For me, it's not even food issues (I don't think.) It's more being lazy and just not having the energy to care enough about that. This. "Don't like that rug? Pull it up. All done. The rug is not going to creep back onto the floor." Literally. Made my LOL. Hahahaaa! So true!!<br /><br />Re: Murphy. I'm so anxious to find out what the neuropsych eval says. And I totally get it. I really have to fight feeling sorry for myself that we aren't "normal." I want so badly for Kent to do t-ball and soccer, etc, etc. He just can't do it. Physically, he's actually really good at sports (he plays with Fred in the backyard,) but emotionally, he just can't get past having to play by the rules and sometimes not winning. He. has. to. win. Period. And of course other parents say, "put him in, he's going to have to learn sometime that you don't always win." I wish it was that easy.<br /><br />Oh well. Like you say. It could be worse. Truly. It's more a matter of me adjusting my expectations and realizing that life with my children is not going to be the way I thought it would. Doesn't necessarily mean it's bad....just different.<br /><br />I'm glad you're posting again. I think about you a lot and it's so nice to read that other parents aren't "normal." ;)Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10443312525591908741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8570778423507464439.post-9625799914306938012011-03-21T05:06:17.554-07:002011-03-21T05:06:17.554-07:00Oh Gigs, thank you so much. It made me feel so goo...Oh Gigs, thank you so much. It made me feel so good to hear someone else can understand the whole "chaperoning" upstairs & the bed thing. I do feel like we are moving in the right direction now. I worry about Jack, though, so much...his older brother. He just can't stand the whole thing. That is wild to find out that your son has sequencing issues and the difficulty he will/does have with thing like reading an analog clock...things that we neurotypical people just take for granted. Having a kid with these kind of 'issues' really throws the normal everyday off, huh! I totally get and understand the sequencing thing, but I can imagine to most people, they'd be like "Huh? What do you mean he can't read the clock?" Just one more blip to the day!<br /><br />I have been meaning to post more and be in more 'contact' with you as I know you have a similar situation. You take care of yourself and your little guy, too!Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244649713390780027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8570778423507464439.post-70454988361500073262011-03-20T17:18:19.850-07:002011-03-20T17:18:19.850-07:00Oh Julie, I know. I have recently been really of t...Oh Julie, I know. I have recently been really of the mind set that I'm just going to eat whatever I want, with almost a blind eye to the repercussions. I never care in the moment, but then I kick myself after. And I think it is just for the personal satisfaction of doing what I want, when I want, and not denying myself. Maybe it's like painting floors... Also, I hear you on having to chaperone trips upstairs or downstairs. I totally get that. And the going to bed with them. I think all my in-laws think I'm crazy and we should just whip our guy into shape, but you know it's not like that at all... If only it were that easy... Don't feel bad about saying it's hard. The stuff you are dealing with takes a huge toll on everyone involved. Your neuropsych eval should give you more tools/information to help the situation. We had been told to bypass handwriting with keyboarding too, but then found out that our guy (among other things) has sequencing issues and will never be able to keyboard the typical way (or be able to read an analog clock, or figure out the date from a normal grid-style wall calendar). It's all stuff he's managed to work around, but knowing what we know now, we won't waste any more time "teaching" our 12 1/2 year old to do these things. Anyway, just wanted to say Murphy is lucky to have a mom who is willing to understand, support, and work with him. And you're all moving in the right direction now, which is so much better than wondering if you are. Hope you are feeling better/happier soon.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02625501000684450886noreply@blogger.com